An important distinction we need to be clear about before we look at the four stages your relationship will pass through in your journey to a true cuckolding lifestyle is the difference between hotwifing and cuckolding, and infidelity and affairs.
The simple distinction is with hotwifing and cuckolding a man’s wife has other sexual partners with his knowledge, consent and approval. In most cases it’s even driven by the man, at least in the beginning, because it’s a deep seated fantasy he has.
Now we understand that we can explore the four stages I mentioned above. Almost every marriage where cuckolding becomes the norm passes through these stages, and it’s important to realise they are entirely natural and normal. The only thing I’ll warn you of is once you each the final stage, then it’s all really out of your hands.
You will be a cuckold, just like you wanted to be, and there will be no way of going back, even if you want to. We’ll see why this is shortly.
Stage 1: Ignorance.
This is where the man has the fantasy, but his wife knows nothing of it. She doesn’t even know she doesn’t know. If you asked her about having extra-marital sex, she’d immediately think of infidelity and affairs, and, assuming your marriage is strong, would likely be repelled by the idea.
Stage 2: Awareness.
Once you’ve broached the subject with her and explained the difference between hotwifing and cuckolding, and having an affair she’s aware of it and, unless she’s dead-set against it to the extent she won’t even talk about it, she’ll be looking for information on the topic and asking you lots of questions about it.
This stage can last a long time and it’s important not to rush things — because once she’s actually had sex with another man, then while she can stop and never do it again, it’s impossible to put back the clock and unfuck the guy.
Stage 3: Exploration.
This is where she’s done it and she’s liked it… and she’s willing to do more of it.
But there’s still some part of her that’s unsure and she’s telling herself the reason she’s doing it is for you. She’d stop any time you asked, and she’s constantly checking with you that it’s still OK.
Stage 4: Lifestyle.
After a while, your beloved undergoes a deep and profound change.
At this point, without her even realising it, she has grown into her role as a sexually liberated hotwife. She’s free from the constraints of society which, if she was a single woman, would likely judge her harshly.
Instead, she is a respectable married woman who has the benefit of unlimited outlets for her sexual energy.
At this point she is doing it for herself… and if you asked her to stop the wouldn’t.
It’s not that she’s cruel or unloving, it’s more that the deep and profound change has made her so she could see no reason for stopping.
Men whose wives progress to this stage are in a bed of their own making. They have asked, and even begged for this, and while they can stop it by leaving the marriage, if they wish to remain in it, then they have to understand she has lovers and that’s final.
She will likely involve you in her sexual exploits, allowing you to watch and listen, but it’s now no longer about you. It’s about her.
In the extreme, she may have a live-in lover, and while you are still No. 1 in terms of her love and loyalty, in terms of sex you may be relegated to a slave, serving both of them at their whim.
The thing to remember is this: be very, very, careful what you wish for.