Learning how to slow down your orgasm is a first step on experiencing the true pleasure of sex. Ejaculating too soon is a common problem facing many healthy men. Reaching an orgasm too fast might have a negative impact on self-image and future sexual encounters, creating a “self-fulfilling prophecy” of inadequate performance. However, learning to overcome premature ejaculation (or simply improve your sexual stamina) is possible. The following are some important guidelines to keep in mind when trying to improve your sexual performance.
1. RELAX AND LISTEN TO YOUR BODY.
A variety of relaxation, meditation and breathing techniques can be employed to help you become more aware of your body. The simplest one is just paying attention to your breathing during sex. Don’t try to control your breathing, just notice it and be aware of it.
Don’t rush through sex – slow down, relax and try to feel every moment of it.
2. STOP THINKING AND FOCUS ON PLEASURE.
Experience sex with your body, not your mind. Connecting with what you are feeling is paramount to experiencing the real joy of sex.
Let go of your internal dialog. Having a “plan of performance” keeps you from being open-minded and flexible during sex. Thinking about things that are a “turn-off” in an attempt to last longer is extremely
counterproductive, as it keeps you from reaching the highest levels of arousal and prevents you from feeling the full pleasure of sex.
Don’t think about the outcome, don’t worry about your “performance” – just enjoy the ride and focus on pleasure!
3. GET USED TO AND MASTER THE HIGHEST LEVELS OF AROUSAL.
Develop a habit of increasing your sexual pleasure. Feel the passion and let it take you over. Feel those moments of pleasure and let them expand. As you become more comfortable with arousal by practicing, you will be able to experiment with it more. Changing your breathing patterns and discovering feelings and sensations that went unnoticed before are all part of your sexual mastery. Don’t be afraid of experimenting and trying new things.
Most of all, remember that sex is a journey and not a destination!